Ughh, Smothering..

This is just a little Food For Thought that is dedicated to the 2 guys out there that said I "smothered them" when we were either talking or still dating. I am different from most girls, I am weird, I like different things, I'm emotionally holding baggage I could never get rid of as a child, I'm a girly tomboy who likes to eat desserts everyday of my life... but I'm a nurturer..I care. I'm probably the only person in your life that cares so deeply about you. So to say you need more time away from me is such a kick in the ass of my personality. It makes me question everything I have ever done for you and makes me think maybe if I cared a lot less you would like me. 

A past fling said I smothered him and now he deeply regrets it and said I was the best thing that happened to him.. look where he's at now. Not in my life. If you're going to treat me like that then I have no desire to continue a conversation or relationship with you until you figure out what you're about to lose.

If I'm asking you to stay a little longer and eat dinner with me because my mom already made it..don't grab your things and say you can't. Nothing is more important where you have to bail on spending a little bit more time with me or bailing on my mom taking time out of her life to make sure you eat before you go home (excluding emergencies obviously). If you feel uncomfortable in anyway by that then don't have a connection with me then.

Or if that's how you feel, then I'll simply care less. I'll treat you how you treat me and just act like you're not important to me since that's how I feel. I've bitten my tongue and accepted the fact that I'm such an imperfect human being.. or actually quite the fucking screw up. But when it comes to caring about a person, I feel like there can never be too much love or care for a person.

Guys/Girls please don't ever EVER tell a girl you feel smothered, unless she's like showing up to your house in her pj's at 3am asking you to come over and watch "Friends" while holding her cat. If she's a genuinely good person and you have history with them, don't tell them that they care too much, because if you think about it, it's the same thing. If there is love between the 2 of your, smothering shouldn't even be in your vocabulary.

Girls if you have ever been called a "smother" or "clingy" please know that caring too much is not your flaw. You have a big heart that's always wanting to make sure your significant other is well and happy. Don't listen to those people; let that negativity out of your life or ignore it until they realize how much they hurt you by saying that. Continue to care and spread your love around until that one person appreciated your nurturing personality and loves you for you.