Why Are You So Quiet?

People Constantly Calling You "Shy"

I saw this picture on Instagram and screenshotted it immediately, well because it describes me to the T. When people hangout with me for the first time or just meeting me, I don't open up. I'm not an open book in any means. Why? Because I have an amazing sense of character..not to flaunt it or anything, but I can sense good and bad vibes from a mile away. Of course there are times where I miss-judge people because sometimes people put up a front and hide their true selves from others in different situations. But for the most part, I'm pretty good at it. Being shy is one of my many qualities that I love about myself, it made me selfless person that actually has the ability to care about what others has to say and how to trust the right people.

I stay quiet because I don't trust easily with people..and no, no ex or friend made me that way, I've always been cautious with people I don't particularly know. I stay quiet to kind of listen to what other people are saying and kind of analyze the type of person they are. I literally knit-pick everything you say and try to figure out where the conversation is going or what the person is trying to convey by the time they finish their sentence. It helps me give good advice to others that ask AND TAKE. But it also helps me understand your personality and true intentions. Therefore, I can, judge-for lack of a better word- whether you have good or bad vibes. And if I sense you have bad vibes, I'll stay clear away from you because I simply do not trust you so I don't need a friendship from you at all. I basically "pick" people as friends/best friends that I care about and know that they'll care about me and what I have to say. Hence why I only have at max 4 real friends; they are the only ones I get good vibes from and can trust full heartedly.

When I'm with a group of people of people who are all chatting and laughing, you'll often see me stay quiet for this reason. Unless someone I know is there with good vibes, I'll only gravitate towards them because I can trust them and I know they'll listen to what I have to say and actually care. For example, my boyfriend and his cousins and friends were all sitting around at the swap meet at Raceway Park talking and his cousin says to me, "Amber, why are you not talking?" and my response most of the time is "Eh I'm just tired" just to avoid wasting my time explaining to people basically that "I don't really care to engage in a conversation with you because I know in 2 minutes you won't really care and carry on with your life so why waste my time talking to you." Or I'll say "just listening to what everyone else is saying".

So if anyone out there is dealing with being called "too quiet" or "shy" or saying to you "why aren't you talking when everyone else is talking"...then here's my advice to you: ignore them because they don't understand how SMART YOU REALLY ARE! By being quiet and listening you become selfless and you understand how people think and how they really feel deep down and not how they portray on the surface. You learn to analyze what people are thinking before they even finish their whole rant, that way you can give your honest and full opinion. Being shy also helps you take two steps back and realize who has good vibes and who has bad vibes, so don't be ashamed!

Shy, quiet people are the best kind of people, trust me, I've watched loud people's behaviors and it just kind of sucks. Sure they can be fun to party with and hangout with, but when it comes down to who really is going to give you genuine honest advice, they're not going to do that for you.*Disclaimer: I'm not saying that type of person doesn't exist, just saying that it usually isn't common to find someone like that, that's why they're loud* This is because they're normally used to drawing attention to themselves. So next time you ask me the stupid question of "why am I so quiet" please be respectful and not question my intelligence, I'm perfectly aware that I'm not talking, there's no need for you to attempt to 'get me involved' by trying to embarrass me or something, because I don't really care and I will still choose not to talk. Sit back and keep that mouth running, because I'm secretly figuring out your weakness;)