To be on the prescribed medication Accutane, you must be on birth control if you are sexually active. Which when me and my mom where in the dermatologists office and my doctor just threw that out there and put me under the bus.. I sank low in my seat and just stood there as I felt the heat rush to my face. I knew the truth ..but did my mom? Was she going to say something if she knew? Nahh, she probably doesn't know. Then the doctor asked me, "Do you have anything to say to that?" And all I said was "no." in the quietest tone possible. I can't admit something to my doctor that not even my own mother knows.
How do you tell your parents you are "sexually active" (I hate those words). This is my story of the time I told my mom I was sexually active with my boyfriend of 1 year and 2 months.
Trust me, I've been going through this scenario in my head thousands upon thousands of times.
Maybe she'll be understanding
Maybe she'll punch me in the face
Maybe she'll say she found out a while ago and was waiting for me to bring it up
Or maybe she'd punch me in the face....
You don't really know what to expect when you're telling your mom something so intense and secretive. I'm sure it's not something every mom wants to hear...when their child is around 10-16 years old. But I am 18 years old and after all my friends telling me to lie to my doctor and my mom about it. I decided it's just best to tell the truth and be responsible for my actions. Mature decision right? LOLJK not what my parents thought, they didn't see the honesty part in it at all.
When I told my mom she did the obvious yelling, and the whole 'disappointed speech' but overall she felt crushed and couldn't even look me in the face. That's a lot of heartache to deal with in one night, I'm sure. She started talking all rude and nasty to me, so when I questioned her on it, she just said "You just told me something I really didn't want to hear right now, give me some space, I feel disgusted." Now that hurts. What I thought would be a good, honest decision turned out to be a mistake that could have possibly ruined the relationship that I have with my parents for a very long time.
Last night, at around 1am, I heard my mom spreading the news to my dad. That lead to upset tones, "no don't tell me that" and mad bursts of anger. Like ok, I get that I am "young" but I'm not 11. I'm a growing 18 year old with a very special person in my life, so I'm not going to stay a golden child my entire life. I waited until I was ready with the guy of my dreams that treats me right. I'm not whoring around sleeping with every guy possible. They need to let me go sometime, so they should be glad I'm trying to take responsibility now.. but it's your parents so what can you really expect.
My parents are both 100% Puerto Rican, so that means.. temper and attitude come quickly and unexpectedly. My dad is off of work tomorrow and that is the day that I go to get my birth control pills. I know on the way there, I am going to get the speech of a life time. I am not looking forward to it, but growing up in this household, it is a definite obvious. I'm nervous because I barely have a good relationship with my dad and after all of this.. I'm pretty sure there's not going to be one at all.
I know the decision I made with my boyfriend, I do not regret it because I and he knows that we were meant to be together for a very long time. Honesty is the best policy, don't forget that. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents, but be prepared for the worst. That's my advice to everyone.
Goodluck! & don't forget to stay protected at all times ladies and gents!
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